Can anyone recommend a non flash way of embedding video on a page so it streams, and I have some control over the look of the player. Is there an extension for this?
I'm not sure if this will do what you want but it gets mentioned here now and again. It's not free but it isn't expensive.
Video JS is a great tool to use that is free and very easy to install. You have some customization over things like autoplay, size, and loading options. It utilizes HTML5 which works great for mobile too!