When I open up indesign or photoshop it tells me to sign in and so i click sign in now and i cant get on cause it tells me i'm not connected!!!!!
There can be several reasons why this error might be hapenning.
These issues and solutions are listed in the followig document: http://helpx.adobe.com/x-productkb/policy-pricing/activation-network-i ssues.html
Could you run through these steps and let us know how it goes.