Work with cross-references instead of a TOC.
Work with identical Paragraph Styles, make the one based on the other one, so only one of them will be drawn into an automatic TOC, the other identical one will be omitted.
Thanks for the tip on the numbered list. I got the chapter number into the TOC that way.
Still, it doesn't seem to be the same way that the "pro" did it before. I know because in the version the pro did, I can put the cursor into the "chapter 1" text, but in the numbered list, I cannot do that because you can't put the cursor into the automatic text of a numbered list.
Having trouble with the subheading numbers too. I can't get them with 2.1, 2.2 etc. I may just remove them altogether.
I wish I could just let one of you helpful pros look at this book I got and tell me how the TOC was made. Seems like quite a few tricks were used. Anyone have dropbox or google drive and a few helpful minutes to spare???
It was originally done by a Korean publisher and went through another middle man so I can't really ask the "pro" that did it first.