Try the forum for Flash Player.
What is your operating system, version & edition?
What is your web browser?
What is your Flash Player version?
If you don't want to update, why don't you disable auto-update?
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You know I have the same problem in my IE9 browser. I will get this Windows add on installer pop wanting to install FP which is already installed and working properly. I did a clean uninstall and reinstall, several times, and I still get the pop up. It happens probably twice a day. Someone suggested it might be a problem with my AOL homepage, but, AOL says no. I do not have this problem in my FF 14 browser. I changed my FP update feature to "do not notify" as someone suggested. We'll see if that works. I did a complete security sweep with AVG, Malware Bytes, and Super Antispyware-all clean. I'm running Vista OS with 4G RAM. I look forward to any comments. Thanks