What does it mean when my cursor is placed in a bolded word and when I select the Type>Hyperlinks & Cross-References menu and none of the fly-out menu options are available? Does this mean I've placed my cursor within an existing cross-reference?
Probably not. It certainly doesn't behave that way when I put my cursor into a known x-ref. Clicking into a known reference also highlights it inthe Cross-References section of the Hyperlinks panel. You might be in a destination, but I haven't figure out a way to make that obvious anyplace (and I still see some options available in the menu).
Thanks... that was helpful because I didn't think to open the hyperlinks panel. I've never used it before. As I'm sure it should, it does highlight the hyperlink IF it is really a cross-reference.
@Pete47 – you could try the "Wps HyperlinkInspector" by Werner Perplies:
Unfortuantely, it's all in German, but ask Werner for an English version…
I discovered some problems with its UI on Mac OSX, but if you are on Windows it should work fine.
The trial version is restricted to 25 hyperlinks…
Since "Wps HyperlinkInspector" is using "nodes" [+] you can expand, expect problems if you are testing with the current version of inDesign CC. There are some severe bugs with ScriptUI right now (e.g. you cannot expand "nodes").
Now that I've started to use the Hyperlinks panel, I've discovered how to change the appearance of existing cross-references. Select the cross-reference in the hyperlink panel, select the panel's menu and then select the Cross-Reference Options. The Edit Cross-Reference dialog opens and you can change the appearance of the selected cross-reference.
Hope that helps someone searching for an answer to my original question. :-)