Why did you decide they look darker in AE? How do you judge on their brightness? By watching via QuirkTime?
If so, disable QuirkTime built-in colour management first: go to Control Panel -> Appearance and Personalization -> NVIDIA Control Panel -> Video -> How do you make color adjustments? and choose With the NVIDIA Settings.
If that's not the case, provide answers to the questions above.
When I I view them in quicktime or in the camera they look flat and normall but when loaded into AE they get darker and when I render it out it becommes flat. I will try those setting that you recomended.
those setting dont help i dont need to ajust my monitor, i have a NEC 27" spectraview II calibrated to sRGB. i need help, and fast, i need to start a Funeral that i filmed (to edit)
Those settings have nothing to do with adjusting a monitor, they disable media players built-in colour management.