This is why I DON'T use Internet Exploder. And it only got worse with Win 8 because Microsoft (in their infinite wisdom) has decided that you and I are "too dumb" to keep our own Flash Player up to date.
Internet Exploder is for testing webpages to learn what I have to change to make them work. If you aren't a web desinger, you really have NO USE for it at all. That doesn't mean you can uninstall it, because unfortunately, Windows NEEDS it just to function (pretty pathetic).
I use Firefox.... BECAUSE IT WORKS.
Download it, install it, download the Flash Player Plug-in (for All other browsers) and install it. You'll be pleasantly suprised at how well you can get along without Microsoft's garbage excuse for a browser.
Flash player is always asking for an update...
Flash Player is not doing such things; more likely you got malware trying to get you to install more malware.