trouble with explorer installing 32 bit flash player when I am running 64 bit 8.1
Is there a way to download the proper flash player for it?
No, there is no way to install Flash Player for IE from here. It's embedded by Microsoft, and can ONLY be updated through WIndows update.
then is nit a microsoft problem that it is installing a 32 bit flash player for 64 bit program?
The Flash Player installer (embedded or the one from here - for Win 7) installs BOTH 64 and 32 vit plug-ins.
You may be confused by the Control Panel icon, Flash Player (32-bit), but that's the GLobal Settings Manager, which IS a 32 bit app, and MUST be labeled as such per Microsoft specs.
If you check C/Windows/System32/Macromed/Flash, and C/Windows/SysWOW64/Macromed/Flash, you'll see plug-in files for both bit rates.