There really aren't any auto-fit functions that apply to table-row height directly, so I suspect you aren't going to find a way to make this automatic.
If it was my document, I'd consider doing (something like ) this:
Find the tallest row in the table. (Or, maybe if there are just a few exceptionally tall rows; handle them discreetly and use the 2nd or 3rd tallest row as a reference.) Then calculate how many (max number of) rows of that size will fit in each text frame. Divide the height of the text frame by that number to get a row-height that will fit the same number of rows in each frame. Then, select the whole table and make all the rows that height. Follow up with typographical adjustments that help the uniform row height look resolute.
Ah I suspected as much, since my searching didn't yield anything close to what I was looking for.
So I think I'll have to take your suggestion, except some sections of the table have widely disparate heights due to some cells containing huge amounts of info.
My only recourse is to break the table wherever the cell heights are too dissimilar, then calculate based on your math. It's not ideal but it will be better than aligning each page by hand.
Thanks much for your help.