Is it possible to pdf content as spreads and have page numbers on both pages of the spread? So for instance spread 1 would be page 1 and 2 however would only be seen as page 1. Is is possible to change it to be page 1 and 2 and still be a spread?
I've moved your question from feature requests to the general discussion.
It's not clear to me what you are asking. There is no difference, as far as page numbering and what will show, between exporting a PDF as single pages or spreads.
The way to accomplish this is to output the pdf as single pages, and then open it Acrobat to change the initial view settings for the document. (It can be found under file properties.) Make the change, close and save the document, and then when you reopen it, you will see it as spreads, but the page search will follow your InDesign page numbers.