Make sure that the things you want to control are objects and not just raw drawn graphics.
If you use different layers for each object then you do not have to deal with the send forwards/backwards options. That will be done by virtue of using different layers.
should i define the shape as an object? if so, how do i do that?
i got around the problem by making multiple layers and put the objects i wanted in the back in the layer thet i put below
please someone answer how to define a drawn graphic as an object so ill know if to mark's answer as correct.
(thank you so much for commenting Ned! i forgot to say the obvious)