Try opening the RTF in Word and resave.
Ok - so after lots of looking and trying - including saving as a html file and resaving back as a word docx. And then saving as a doc - resave as an rtf - none of which worked for me... I found a site that said if you go to preferences and clipboard handing - make sure paste all styles is selected.
I did try this and it did not seem to work with either the docx or rtf file. But I just randomly tried saving the docx as a doc and then placing that and YAH it worked - not just placed the word doc into my indesign file (that was never the issue) - but maintained the reference stylings which was what I needed.
Why? No idea. Will it work next time? Who knows.
If anyone has any other ideas as to why all this happened/happens that would be great. Otherwise I hope this post helps someone else.
Hi Peter - thanks for the reply - I cannot tell you how many ways I have saved and resaved this document. And yes I have tried opening the RFT in word and resaving and alas that did not work.
Holy cr@p! Thanks for the hint @NViereckel... I converted my .docx file to .doc and the place cursor loads up nicely and does its thing. I don't care how it works... it just works now. I'm beyond stoked.
Good to hear - I know how frustrating it all was for me - so glad I helped someone else. Just remember to undo the paste all styles button when you go back to your normal work, otherwise it is a tad annoying :-)