Take a deep breath, think about what you want to ask then rephrase your question so it makes some sense.
There are options when placing an Illustrator *.ai file. They are the same like placing a PDF, because you cannot place a "pure" ai file without a PDF representation additionally saved to the file. So you could look for the preferences before placing the ai:
Mainly for the pdfCrop property.
Here an DOM docuementation example for InDesign CS6:
EDITED: Small correction: "pdfCrop" instead of "crop"