The normal procedure is to create a PDF from InDesign and supply that to your printer. The printer should supply a spec but if they don't, use the Acrobat PDF Presets and select PDF/X-4, select Pages (not Spreads) and under the Marks and Bleeds tab tick Use Document Bleed Settings.
Your printer will do the imposition.
Re crashing, two possibilities:
1) Have you embedded the images InDesign rather than linked them?
2) Try trashing your InDesign preferences: Close and relaunch InDesign, and IMMEDIATELY hold down Ctrl + Alt + Shift (Windows) or Cmd + Ctrl + Opt + Shift (Mac), and select yes when you're asked if you want to replace the preferences.
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