I'm looking for an flv player that pulls flv from an external
source, the player needs to have simple pause play controls and
either show frame 1 of the video or have the ability to display a
static image (clip of the video).
looked all over flashkit and cant find what i want!
You could download this flv player. Its pretty simple, just you described and has the ability to download flv videos if given youtube url to the video. I think it works with a couple of other websites as well.