The issue is that the Control panel buttons are now larger to accommodate HiPDI displays, and the Frame Fitting tools no longer fit on your screen. Click the gear button on the top right of your Control panel and uncheck a few of the commands above Frame Fitting (Object). Perhaps Effect, Text Wrap and Corner Shape.
For more details and screen shots, see https://www.rockymountaintraining.com/adobe-indesign-frame-fitting-buttons/.
Also, you posted your question in the non-technical Lounge forum, which is where you can connect with your peers for conversations that don't directly relate to product help and support. I’ll move question to the InDesign forum for you. For a list of all available product forums, see https://forums.adobe.com/welcome/