Did you ever find the answer to this? I have similarly been frustrated by the lack of current, easy-to-understand directions. There are great tutorials and movies for setting up the local server (which I've done) but the obvious next step is to connect to remote servers and the info on how to do so is curiously thin and confusing. Thanks for any help.
How hard can it be guys?
You develop locally so that FB can access the local test web server files.
To deploy to the remote server you change the web address to be that of your remote server and you transfer using an FTP program the local files to the remote server. If you have a database you need to export that to your remote server too.
You could develop on a remote server but you'd need to look after all the php/whatever stuff yourself.
I don't generally use Flex to build my remote PHP code and it's not an issue for me either way.
Thanks for your reply pauland. I appreciate that this isn't an issue for you but a quick search will show you that it is an issue for others. If you have any direct help for connecting Flash Builder to a remote database I will thank you in advance. It does seem like this should be an easy thing to do (at least on par with setting it up locally) but I think specific steps would be more helpful.
Flash builder doesn't connect to a local or remote databases. The PHP code generation builds PHP code that interacts with a database local to that PHP code.
With your local server, you have FB create the PHP code and your flex application accesses the PHP via your local server. There is no concept of flex accessing a database directly, only via the generated PHP code.
[edit: in terms of specific steps.
1) Use FB to generate your PHP code and create your local MySQL database.
2) Test Using your local server.
3)When done, amend your flex project to use the correct URL for your remote server. Export the local MySQL database and transfer it to the remote server.
Transfer PHP code to remote server, test PHP code against remote server, test flex against remote server.
Unfortunately I think the real problem is understanding all the individual bits - you have three seperate technologies at work.
Thanks for your time pauland. I appreciate you editing your comment and outlining the specific steps. You've restored my faith in forums.
I do think you are right in that there are 3 separate technologies working together and it's hard for someone like me to understand how they work together. That would be a great overview video for beginners.
Thanks again and take care.