You should be just able to Place the file. When you click to place, click near the top left margin and hold down shift.
That shift key makes a BIG difference!
Question - how do I easily go back and forth between Indesign and InCopy? The documentation leaves me confused with packages, browsing, etc....
I recommend you sign up for the InCopy lessons at Lynda.com. It's really quite vast to go through.
Eugene is right about Lynda.com. It’s the best value in the world.
Here’s a link for a free one week trial: http://bit.ly/fcGpiI
But…why are you going back and forth? If you’re working on your own, quite frankly I see no reason at all to bring InCopy into the equation.